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1. Don’t compromise your values to stay with a man.
2. Don’t harbor hatred in your heart for anyone, because it will poison your other relationships.
3. Stop looking for a guy. Just focus on finding pleasure in your life, and he will come.
That was the advice from Maria Olson Goins, founder of LivLuna; Elena Brower, yogina and founder of ViraYoga and Art of Attention; and Yolanda Shoshana, the Luscious Lifestyle Diva; who all spoke at LivLuna’s event, How to Create the Love You Want.
LivLuna, if you need reminding, is a site dedicated to cultivating a positive self image for women and girls. It’s a great place to go when you need a break from skinny Victoria’s Secret models who have been airbrushed beyond recognition, or media messages telling you to buy things you don’t need or else you won’t be as pretty or popular.
When I arrived the event this Monday in Meatpacking, the bar was full of young women laughing and talking over vodka cocktails. I met a couple of the amazing women working at LivLuna–Kathleen Furey and Christina Starmer–who I chatted with while taking snaps of people at the event.
Then the music got low and after a brief introduction by Maria, standup comedian Marla Schultz broke it down for us onstage. Girl is funny, dropping hilarious tidbits in between on-point lessons about not letting men run all over you.
Here’s a variation of her act:
But the main event was the three women there to tell their stories and advice of creating a strong, meaningful love.
Elena told her own powerful story of infidelity and redemption, breaking down the walls she had built around herself through recognizing her own role in the ruined relationships in her life. “Whatever you’re holding against someone in your life, just entertain the possibility that it is you. Just say to yourself, ‘Say it’s me being mean.’ As soon as I said that, the tears began to fall and the bricks began to crumble, and within six months I was with the man I love.”
How can you harbor hate for someone and real love for someone else in the same body? Elena doesn’t think it’s possible. For her, the first step to real love is to talk to the people against whom you’ve been holding a grudge–to interview them like a journalist on your relationship. If they are crazy or dead, write them a letter. But try to figure out why it happened. Once you do that, you will open yourself up to a real, true relationship.
Yolanda’a advice was all about empowerment. To her, our enemies of happiness aren’t just dick guys. It’s also girls who will try to tear down your happiness. “Don’t talk about the first date with your friends. Women can be dream killers.” She says to just enjoy the first few dates, and then when you are really sure you like the guy, you can start opening up to your friends about him. Or else girls will pick at the details, finding things that are wrong that you hadn’t even thought of!
You also have to stop focusing on finding a guy. Men can smell that, Yolanda said. Just focus on finding pleasure and laughing, and men will be attracted to that happiness you exude.
I think this is totally true. On a smaller scale, when I’ve been at a party where I’m thinking, “Someone come talk to me!” No one does. It’s when you’re not worried that the magic happens.
Maria Olson Goins
The most emotional part of the night came when Maria opened up about her own dark period in her life. She kept moving the line on her own values to accommodate this terrible boyfriend, until she finally realized she needed to leave. “You don’t stop loving someone because they hurt you,” she said. “You just love yourself less.” That drew a strong reaction from the crowd of women, who clearly felt something resonate within themselves at that statement.
The best advice of the night was this: Make sure your partner is lifting you up–not clipping your wings.”
I’ll leave you with this very appropriate and pretty new melody (the video is shot in NYC, PS). And below, peep the slideshow of more pictures from the event.
This is really annoying, but clicking the slideshow each time makes the page reload and brings you to the top. I’m going to try to figure out how to fix it, but don’t hate me in the meantime!
If you’re like me, you’ve been flipping through the spring magazines and making long, long lists of what you want to add to your wardrobe for spring. I personally have nude pumps, a sequin skirt and color-blocked anything on my list.
Options from eco-friendly designers are limited, unfortunately, so any eco-friendly gal knows to turn to consignment stores high and low to fill out her conscious wardrobe.
Your perfect opportunity to do so comes this Thursday, when Second Time Around hosts a girls’ night out from 7-9pm, complete with champagne and 20% off your purchase.
STA has five locations in NYC, so you can find one convenient for you and your girlfriends:
UES: 1040 Lexington at 75th Street
Soho: 111 Thompson at Prince
Nolita: 262 Mott right below Houston
UWS: 2624 Broadway at 99th Street
Chelsea: 94 7th Avenue
Tonight, March 11th at 10:30pm
Butterfield8, 5 East 38th Street, New York
Come ready to SHOP & PARTY with DJ Josh Lau!
+ $40 Premium Open Bar (or drink by drink prices, don’t panic)
+ Free amazing eco gift bags!
+ Fun raffles!
RSVP dates are long past, but it’s open to the public so pop in…you might see me there.
Obviously I love anything involving food. Here’s the skinny on yummy local food events from Food Systems Network NYC:
[UPDATE] Amsterdam Market sent this out pretty late, so voila, more yummy goodness:
Pick up some apple cider and pumpkin pie from Breezy Hill Orchard, and warm up with La Newyorkina’s hot chocolate, made with Taza Chocolate. There will be a market scavenger hunt with prizes from Liddabit Sweets, Animal Welfare Approved, and La Newyorkina; pumpkin carving and decorating with Jimmy’s No. 43 and Church Street School of Music and Art; bobbing for New York apples from Basis/Basis Good Food to You; and paper ornament making with master printmaker and artist Robert Warner at the New Amsterdam Market School (224 Front Street).
There will also have the seaweed stand and mushrooms, plus a jam making workshop. Awesome!
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 31, 2010
NEW AMSTERDAM MARKET
South Street & Peck Slip in Lower Manhattan
11am to 4pm
Halloween Hoorah at the New York Botanical Garden
This one is obviously for the kiddies, but there are some activities that grownups might enjoy too: apple sauce making, cider pressing, and three of the largest pumpkins grown in the US this year, all over 1,500 pounds. Dude, that is a lot of pumpkin pie.
October 28-31, New York Botanical Garden in Bronx Park, 10am-5:30pm
October 30th, Prospect Farm’s Harvest Festival + Soup Cook-off
Here’s the grown-up stuff. Forget bobbing for apples, we’ve got a soup cook-off with tasting, drinks, food, raffles, music, and tours of the farm. Yes, yes yes! Proceeds will go to the farm, natch.
Prospect Farm, 1194 Prospect Ave between Seeley and Vanderbilt Sts. 11am-4pm
CALABAZAFEST! mashes up Day of the Dead, Halloween, and Eco-Harvest Fair traditions, and makes it FREE. It’s got live music, dance performances, a farmers market, workshops, cooking, pumpkin carving, and costume contests. www.EcoStationNY.org.
October 30th, Maria Hernandez Park/Bushwick Farmers Market, Starr St. and Knickerbocker Ave. 10am-5pm
ENYF Pumpkin Festival & Pie Contest
at East New York Farm. Activities include bobbing for apples, pumpkin carving, live entertainment and trick or treating for those dressed in costume (adults and children). And there’s PIE. (Your own entry or just eating the fruits of others’ labor.)
October 30th, ENY Farmers’ Market, 613 New Lots Ave and Schenck Ave. 9am-3pm
Pick-your-own-Pumpkin at the Queens Farm Museum
How cute is the idea of picking a pumpkin right from the patch? On Saturday, admissions to the farm grounds will be free, featuring the pumpkin patch, corn maze, hay rides, and a haunted house.
October 30-31, Queens Farm Museum, Little Neck Pkwy, Commonwealth Blvd, S/O G C Pkwy, 11am-4pm
And one of my farm-to-table restaurant faves, Bobo, is having a black tie masquerade ball! Ahhh, I wish I didn’t already have plans or else I would be telling mike to get his suit from the dry cleaners RIGHT NOW.
…Chef Patrick Connolly will be serving an array of dishes, including squash soup served in mini pumpkins, Thanksgiving-inspired poutine and a basket of the pastry chef’s favorite homemade “candy” ($100; to make a reservation, send an e-mail to email@example.com or call 212-488-2626). After dinner, everyone is welcome to partake in cocktails and dancing in the den.
Dinner 7 p.m.; cocktails and dancing 9 p.m. Bobo, 181 W. 10th St. (at Seventh Ave. S.); 212-488-2626 or bobonyc.com